Bollywood actress, Sonam Kapoor is someone who we all look upto when it comes to fashion. This Style Diva never gets it wrong. We not only admire Sonam for her fashion choices but also for the way she conduct herself. While she has often been accused of suffering from the ‘Foot in the mouth’ syndrome, the actress is quite unapologetic and that’s the thing we love about her.
When we think of Sonam, we believe that she’s someone who always looks good, always wears the most beautiful designer dresses & always has a BIG smile on her face, but was it always like this? No!
Sonam revealed that she too had insecurities growing up. A beautiful letter that she penned down a year ago for Buzzfeed regarding body image and standards of perfection that society has set for a woman is a MUST READ!
Here are a few pointers from the letter that she wrote:
“Like every girl, I spent many nights through adolescence leaning into my bedroom mirror, wondering why my body looked nothing like it should.”
“Itni lambi, itni kaali,” a relative casually let slip at a family gathering. “Shaadi kaun karega?” It confirmed that my greatest insecurities were well-founded.
“At 18, I went on a date that I thought went well. Later, the boy told our mutual friend that “Sonam is too big”. I didn’t eat for a day.”
” I embarked on a series of unhealthy behaviors. I dieted serially; sometimes South Beach, other times Atkins. Once, in desperation, I tried a diet that had me eating pineapples all day.”
“Far from accepting my body once I was making a living as an actress, I was shown new reasons to hate it.Articles surfaced online, photos zoomed into my arms and thighs, red circles drawn around the slightest hints of a blemish.”
“People started calling me flat-chested. I’d never been insecure about my C-cup but I got defensive about it on Koffee With Karan.”
“Real female bodies are so taboo that hair-removal-cream ads show hairless legs even before the cream is applied.”
“I’m lucky to have had my friend and makeup artist Namrata Soni, who sees my face from hyper close quarters and goes out of her way to make me feel good about it…I have a forcep scar on the right side of my face and my lip lifts up on one side (you notice these things when you’re in front of a camera a lot). When I float the idea of getting them fixed, Namrata reminds me that they make me me.”
“Today, at 31, I like my body because it’s healthy. I’m done celebrating thinness or flawlessness. I’ve embraced a fit lifestyle, clean eating, and the pursuit of waking up every morning feeling energised. There’s beauty in good health.”
“But pursue prettiness for yourself, by your own definitions – not to meet culturally preset notions of “flawless”. Because flawlessness is a dangerous, high-budget myth, and it’s time we shattered it.”
“Before each public appearance, I spend 90 minutes in a makeup chair. Three to six people work on my hair and makeup, while a professional touches up my nails. My eyebrows are tweezed and threaded every week. There’s concealer on parts of my body that I could never have predicted would need concealing.”
“I’ve said it before, and I will keep saying it: It takes an army, a lot of money, and an incredible amount of time to make a female celebrity look the way she does when you see her. It isn’t realistic, and it isn’t anything to aspire to.
“Aspire, instead, to giving your body as much sleep as it needs. Aspire to finding a form of exercise that’s actually fun for you to do. Aspire to knowing your body and how to live well in it. Aspire to confidence. Aspire to feeling pretty and carefree and happy, without needing to look any specific way,” she concludes.
“All the women who’ve championed me have taught me that kind, genuine support can change your friend’s or sister’s or colleague’s life.”
“So, for every teen girl leaning into her bedroom mirror, wondering why she doesn’t look like a celebrity: Please know that nobody wakes up like this. Not me. Not any other actress. (Not even Beyoncé. I swear.)”
Sonam is a woman who does not seek validation from anybody to voice her opinion. She always says what she feels, and we LOVE her for that. The letter she wrote was honest, poignant & something that a lot of women can relate to. All we can say is, more power to you girl!
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